Ukuphatha iPhobia Yakho Yenja
Ingabe inja yakho iyamesaba abantu? Ingabe uyazama noma uyazama ukufihla umuntu oya kuye? Ingabe uyavuthwa noma agwedeze? Mhlawumbe inja yakho ibonisa ngisho nezibonakaliso zokuhlukunyezwa kubantu. Konke lokhu kuziphatha kungase kungabi ukwesaba. Ukwesaba abantu kuyindawo ejwayelekile efana nezinja. Ngenhlanhla, kunezinto ongazenza ukuze usize inja yakho ithole ukwesaba abantu.
Uma inja yakho isaba abantu, le ndaba ingase izwakale ijwayele: U-Molly unguMelusi waseJalimane.
Uma ungowesifazane noma ingane, awusoze ucabange ukuthi uMolly wayenenkinga yokuziphatha . Uyindoda endala ekhulile ayithandi lutho kangcono kunokuba aqhube noma alale ngokuthula ezinyaweni zakho ngenkathi efuna ithambo.
Uma umuntu engena egumbini, Nokho, uMolly uba inja ehlukile. Umelela izinyembezi izindlebe zakhe zinyathelwe futhi umsila wakhe uvele phakathi kwemilenze yakhe. Uzohamba ngokuzungezile ekamelweni, egcina ibanga phakathi kwakhe nendoda. Ngokushesha nje lapho le ndoda ibuyela emuva kuMolly, uyomenza ahambe, aphumule ukuze amnike kakhulu. Ukwesaba kwakhe kuvula le ntombazane enomusa ibe inja enolaka.
Ngenkathi icala likaMolly libi kakhulu, kuyisibonelo esihle sokuthi kwenzekani uma ukwesaba abantu inja kungahambelwanga.
Izimbangela Zokumesaba Abantu Ezinja
Lapho abantu bethola ukuthi inja iyamesaba abantu, ivame ukufakazela ukuthi kukhona okuhlangenwe nakho okubi. Nakuba ukuxhashazwa ngumuntu kungabangela ukwesaba okuqhubekayo kubo bonke abantu, lokhu akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba amadoda ezinja kungalandelwa ukuba kungabonakali kubantu abaningi e-puppyhood yokuqala. Ngisho nenja ehlala nomuntu ingesaba abantu abahlukile kunabo ababajwayele. Amadoda avame ukude kunabesifazane noma abantwana, abe namazwi ajulile, futhi angase abe nezici ezahlukahlukene, ezifana nezinwele zobuso.
Uma ubheka izinto ezinombono wendoda, kulula ukubona ukuthi ukungabi nokuhlangana komphakathi nabantu besilisa ekuqaleni ekuphileni kungabangela ukwesaba abantu njalo.
Ukunqoba Ukwesaba Okuncane Kwezinja Kwabesilisa
Inja enesibindi samadoda ngokuvamile ilula ukunqoba. Kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukuze unciphise izinkathazo zezinja zakho ezesabayo.
- Ungaphoqeleli inja yakho ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokududuza. Uma kukhona amadoda endlini yakho noma amadoda avame ukuvakashela, ungaphoqeleli inja yakho ukuba yamukele. Lokhu kungaholela ekuqiniseni ukwesaba kwenja yakho, futhi ukuluma wena noma lo muntu kumvimbela ukuba angaphumeki ukwesaba kwakhe nakakhulu.
- Vumela inja yakho ukuba isondele kumuntu yodwa. Kungaba nzima kulabo abathandi bezinja abesilisa endlini, kodwa into engcono kakhulu abangayenza ingayinaki inja eyesabayo. Ukuzama ukwenza ubungane nenja kungase kube nomphumela ohlukile kunalokho okuthenjelwe, ukuqinisa ukwesaba kwenja. Vumela inja yakho ukuthi inqume ukuthi isondelene kangakanani nayo.
- Sebenzisa ukuphatha ukukhuthaza inja yakho. Amadoda kufanele aqhubeke nokuphatha kahle ngenkathi ehamba nenja. Noma nini lapho inja eyesabekayo iqala ngisho nokuncane kakhulu kunokujwayelekile, ingakwazi ukukhipha ngobumnene ukuphatha okuthile ekuqondiseni inja. Kungathatha isikhashana ngaphambi kokuba inja ivume ukuphatha, kodwa ekugcineni ungakwazi ukuqeqesha inja yakho ukuthi izinto ezinhle zenzeke noma nini lapho efika kumuntu. Ngesikhathi esithile nesineke, inja eyesabekayo izobe isilungele ukwamukela ukuhlangana kwamadoda ekhaya.
Ukuphatha Izinkinga Ezimbi Zokwesaba
Ezimweni ezinjengoMolly lapho ukwesaba khona abantu kunzima khona, kungathatha isikhathi esingaphezu kwesikhashana futhi kuthatha izinyathelo zokunqoba inja. Kulesi simo, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukuze uphathe ukwesaba kwenja yakho.
- Sebenza ekunciphiseni inja yakho kubantu. Ukwehla kwesimo senqubo kuyindlela yokusebenzisa ukuphatha nokudumisa ukuze kancane kancane inja ikwazi ukuthi iphephile ukuya kubantu. Ezimweni ezinzima, ngeke ufune ukuqala nenja nendoda egumbini elifanayo. Esikhundleni salokho, zama futhi ugcine inja yakho ibanga elide kumuntu, futhi umnike ukuphatha nokudumisa. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungakwazi ukuvala kancane ibanga phakathi kwenja namadoda ngaphandle kwenja ehlukunyezwa ukwesaba kwakhe. Inja yakho ingeke ihlale ikhululekile ngokuphelele nabesilisa, kodwa ingase ibe ekamelweni elilodwa ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuhlukumeza .
- Sebenzisa umqeqeshi wezinja noma wokuziphatha. Ezimweni ezinzima njengoMolly's, kunenzuzo ukuthola usizo lomqeqeshi wezinja owaziwayo noma oziphatha ngokuziphatha . Uchwepheshe uzokwazi ukukala izinga lokududuza kwenja yakho ngokusondelana kwamadoda futhi angakusiza ukuthi uqhube phambili ngokuphepha ngenqubo yokwehla kwenhlawulo.
- Sebenza ngokulalela ukulalela. Inja yakho eqeqeshwe kahle kakhulu, cishe uzokwazi ukumenza agxile kuwe ezimweni ezicindezelayo. Yenza ukuqeqeshwa kwansuku zonke okuyingxenye yesimiso sakho nenja yakho eyesabayo .
- Sebenzisa izinyathelo zokuphepha ezungeze amadoda. Uma inja eyesabayo iphumelela ekuxosheni umuntu ngokumshaya, kungenzeka ukuthi uyaluma futhi. Esikhundleni sokwandisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwenja yenyoka yakho, ukubheja kwakho okuhle ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuvimbela ukuluma . Gcina inja ekamelweni elihlukile noma ekrethini yakhe lapho abantu bevakashela. Uma uhlangana nabesilisa ekuhambeni, i-muzzle ingaba umbono omuhle.
Khumbula ukubekezela ngenja yakho. Kungathatha isikhathi esiningi ngenja ukunqoba i-phobia. Okwamanje, vele ube khona ngenja yakho bese uzama ukugcina izinto ngendlela enhle ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ihlelwe nguJenna Stregowski, i-RVT