Ayikho inhlobo enkulu yokwehlukana kokududuza umngane ngokulahlekelwa ikati kunokulahlekelwa ilungu lomndeni lomuntu. Njengoba uyazi, ngiyaqiniseka, iningi lethu libheke amakati ethu njengamalungu omndeni.
Lapho umuntu egula noma esefile, abantu bavame ukwenza iphutha lokuthi, "Ngitshele ukuthi kukhona yini engingayenza ukuze ngisize." Yize lokho kungase kuhlinzekwe ngezinga eliphansi lokududuzeka, akuvamile ukuthi umamukeli asebenze ukuthi ngubani ongase anqikaze ukuphuma futhi acele izindlela ezithile zokusiza.
Uma kwenzeka isilwane esifayo, ungase ulale umnikelo wakho ngokukhethekile ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomngani wakho:
- I-Baby-Sit Ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo : Ungase ubuze ukuthi ungakhathalela yini ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo , ngakho umngane wakho angasebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe nesilwane. Angase abe nomuzwa wecala ngokungazinaki ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo ngoba ikati lakhe eligulayo lidinga isikhathi esiningi . Noma, angase ajabule isikhathi esithile semfanelo nekati lakhe eligulayo.
- Ukunikezela ukwenza okuthengwayo : Kuvamile ukuthi i-pantry ikhule ngaphansi kwezimo, ngoba asikho isikhathi sokuthenga, noma ngoba umnakekeli unqika ukushiya ikati ekhaya kuphela isikhathi eside. Uma umngane wakho enamahloni ngokukunika uhlu lokuthengwa, anikele ukunakekela ikati ngenkathi ehamba.
- Letha ukudla okuphekwe ekhaya : Kungenzeka ukuthi umngane wakho akavamile ukuthatha isikhathi sokuzilungiselela ukudla ngoba ugxila ekunakekeleni isilwane sakhe. Ngaphandle kokuba wena nomngane wakho nivakashele njalo futhi, nishayele okokuqala ukubona ukuthi kulula yini ukulahla ukudla.
- "NgingakuDlulisela emtholampilo weVet?" : Uma isilwane sisaphila kodwa sisondele kakhulu ekupheleni, ungabuza ukuthi ngabe ufuna yini ukuza ukusekela uma kufika isikhathi. Mhlawumbe ngeke afanele ukushayela ngokuphepha futhi uzokwazisa induduzo kanye nehlombe ukukhala. Angisoze ngikhohlwa umusa womakhelwane wami ngokusishayela lapho ngidinga ukuthatha lolu daba lokugcina oluya ku-vet neShannon yami efa.
Khuluma Nomngane Wakho Ngenkathi Yakhe Ikati
Okubaluleke kunakho konke, khuluma nomngane wakho. Izikhathi eziningi, abantu babambe kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokwesaba, intukuthelo, necala elithile okungenzeka ukuthi abakwenzi ngokwanele isilwane sabo. Noma uma isilwane esisha sishaye, ukuthi akenzanga okwanele. Ngezinye izikhathi, konke okudingeka ukwenze ulalele, bese ugoqa; anikeze isiqiniseko sokuthi wayengumzali wesilwane esihle, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni okusemandleni. Uma kwakudingeka enze isinqumo sokuvuselela, ngokuqinisekile ngeke kube nemizwa yecala ngaphezu kwalokho. Leso sinqumo yisinqumo esithandekayo, esinothando nesingenabugovu noma ubani kithi okufanele asenzele isilwane esithandwayo, ngoba senzelwa isilwane, hhayi thina. Ungasebenzisa lawo magama ngqo uma uthanda. Futhi, tshela umngane wakho ukuthi kuhle ukukhala, bese wenza lokho okuza ngokwemvelo, uma izinyembezi ziqala ukugeleza. Ngaphansi kwezimo, yenza konke ongakwenza ukugxila ingxoxo kuzo zonke izinkumbulo ezinhle ezizungeze leso silwane.
Okokugcina, ngemuva kokuba ikati selidlulile, ungase ufune ukuhlonipha inkumbulo yayo ngesipho sokukhumbula. Umngane wakho angakwazisa "iminikelo enkumbulweni" engithandweni yami yamathandani engithandayo, engayithola ngemva kokulahlekelwa amakati ami. Uma unamathalenta kwezobuciko, isikhumbuzo sothando singaba yinkondlo ekhethekile, umdwebo, umdwebo noma isithombe esifakiwe kungaba isipho esicabangayo.
Umngane wami wabhala ingoma yesikhumbuzo eyanikezwa uS Shannon lapho efa, futhi kwaletha kokubili ukumamatheka, izinyembezi nezinkumbulo ezijabulisayo. (Noma kunjalo.)