Ukukhala Ukulahlekelwa Inja
Uma inja yakho idlulile , ubuhlungu bungase buzwe bungenakubekezelelwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlangabezana kanjani nokulahlekelwa isilwane, kunzima ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungabhekana kanjani nalokhu kulahlekelwa okulimazayo?
Ukusingatha ukufa kwesilwane esithandekayo akulula neze, kodwa ukulila isilwane kuyisici esibalulekile sokuthola kwakho. Uma ulahlekelwe umlingani okhethekile we-canine, imizwelo ingaba yinkimbinkimbi. Thatha isikhashana isikhathi sokulila ngenja yakho.
Gubha ubuhlobo obunakho nenja yakho. Ungesabi ukukhala. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuphulukisa.
Yini Ongayilindela Emva Inja Yakho Ifa
Ngenxa yokuthi isilwane sakho sasiyingxenye yansuku zonke empilweni yakho, ngisho nemisebenzi engavamile kakhulu ingabangela ubuhlungu. Ungase uzithole uzilungele ukondla inja yakho noma umkhiphe ngaphandle, kuphela ukukhumbula ukuthi usekho. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzobuya ekhaya ngezinye izikhathi kulindeleke ukuthi inja yakho izokubingelela. Izinto ezincane ezinjengama-scratch ziphawula phansi kusukela ezikhonkwane ze-doggie zingabangela ukuphendula ngokomzwelo. Izinto ezinjengemibhede yezinja, amathoyizi , izitsha, iziqhumane, amakolishi, njll zizikhumbuzo ezicacile. Noma kunjalo, ukukhipha zonke izinto okukukhumbuza ngenja yakho akuyona impendulo. Uma ufisa ukususa izinto zezinja zakho emehlweni, vele uzigcine endaweni ethile. Ungase ufune ukubuyela emuva futhi ubheke kuzo esikhathini esizayo.
Izinyathelo Zokuzizwa
Incwadi ka-1997 enesihloko esithi On Death and Dying ngu-Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD yabonisa izinyathelo eziyisihlanu zokudabuka manje.
Lezi zigaba azenzelwe ukuhlukanisa usizi, kuphela ukusisiza ukuthi siqonde kangcono usizi. Kuye kumuntu, lezi zinyathelo zingase zenzeke noma zenzeke ngama-oda ahlukene. Ngeke uhlangabezane nazo zonke izigaba. Ayikho indlela eqondile yosizi. Nazi izigaba ezinhlanu zesimiso ngokukaDkt. Kübler-Ross:
- Ukulahla : Ukushaqeka kokuqala kokulahlekelwa kubangela ukungakholwa. Ukuphelelwa amandla ngokomzwelo kuyindlela yokuzivikela eqinisweni.
- Intukuthelo : Njengoba iqiniso lingena, intukuthelo izoqala ukuthuthukisa. Lokhu kuvela ekuhlanganiseni kwemizwelo yakho futhi cishe izinto zindlela yokuqeda ukucindezeleka. Lesi sigaba sivame ukubangela ukuba umlili abeke icala kubantu noma izinto zokufa.
- Ukuxoxisana : Lesi sigaba "sithini uma". Umuntu osiziyo ubheka indlela yokuvimbela ukufa. Ukuzibophezela kuvame ukuhamba nge-bargaining.
- Ukucindezeleka : Lokhu kungaba isigaba esinzima sokukhuthazela, kodwa kuyadingeka ekwenzeni ukuphulukiswa. Isimo esidabukisayo sidinga ukudabuka, futhi ukuphela kokufa kungabangela umuntu ukuba aphansi kakhulu. Kuyinto evamile, kodwa hhayi ngaphandle kokuphela. Noma kunjalo, ukucindezeleka okude kwesikhathi eside kuyisibonakaliso sokufuna usizo ochwepheshe.
- Ukwamukelwa : Nakuba ukudabuka nosizi kungase kube phakade, ukwamukela isigaba kusho ukuhambisana nokufa kweqiniso. Ukwamukela akusho ukuthi "ungaphezu kwalo." Ukwemukela kusho ukuthi uqonda ukuthi impilo iyaqhubeka.
Ukukhumbula isikhala sakho
Ukwenza okuthile okhethekile ukulondoloza inkumbulo yomngane wakho othandekayo kungaba ukwelapha kakhulu. Abanye abanikazi bezilwane banquma nokuba nenkonzo encane emva kokufa kwesilwane.
Into ebalulekile ukukwenza into enhliziyweni yakho ezokusiza ukhumbule inja yakho futhi usebenze usizi lwakho.
Uma ngabe wakwazi ukwenza amalungiselelo ngaphambi kokuba inja yakho ife (njengokwesimo sokubulawa kwe- euthanasia ), kungenzeka ukuthi uthole ithuba lokwenza ukuphrinta kwe-paw ngobumba noma inki. Ukukhiya izinwele kungase kuqoqwe. Uma ungatholi ithuba lokwenza enye yalezi zinto, gcina ezinye zezinto zakho ezincane zezilwane.
Cabanga ukubonisa okukodwa noma ngaphezulu kwezinto (ukuphrinta, ukukhiya izinwele, ikhola yezinja , ithoyizi encane oyintandokazi) ebhokisini lebhokisi lewindi nge isithombe senja yakho. Ukubhaliswa okuncane ngegama lakho lenja kuzoqedela isikhumbuzo. Ungakwazi ngisho ukuyibeka eduze nenye yezindawo zakho eziyizintandokazi zenja ekhaya lakho.
Kunezinye izinto ongazenza ngaphandle kokubonisa u-urn. Cabanga ukutshala isihlahla noma esinye isitshalo egcekeni lakho, futhi usakaze amanye ama-cremains (umlotha) endaweni yokungcola ezungeze isitshalo.
I-pipping yokuhlobisa ingafakwa lapho ngomyalezo kanye / noma igama lesilwane sakho uma ufisa.
Enye indlela eyingqayizivele yokukhumbula isilwane sakho ukudala isikhumbuzo esiyingqayizivele somdwebo ovela ku-cremains. Inkampani Art From Ashes ibilokhu idala izikhumbuzo ezibuciko ezibuciko ezenziwe ngezandla zezilwane ezifuywayo iminyaka eminingi. Ngenxa yesidingo esikhulu, baze baqala nokwenza izingcezu ezivela kubantu abacelayo lapho becela.
Abanye abanikazi banquma ukungcwaba isidumbu sabo noma izidakamizwa ezakhiweni zabo. Uma ufisa ukwenza lokhu, qiniseka ukuthi uhlola izimiso zendawo, njengoba kungase kube ngokungemthetho endaweni yakho. Emva kokungcwaba, cabanga ukuthi unamatshe akhanda akhethekile, itshe elihambayo noma ubuciko obuhlelwe kule ndawo. Ungakhula futhi izimbali ezinhle noma esinye isitshalo lapho.
Kungani ungavezi imizwa yakho ngamazwi? Bhala inkondlo, indaba, ukuthunyelwe kwebhulogi, noma enye inkumbulo enja yakho. Inkokhelo ebhaliwe izokusiza ukucubungula imizwelo yakho. Uma unquma ukushicilela kuyi-inthanethi, inganika abanye ithuba lokubona uthando onalo lwenja yakho. Abanye abanikazi bezilwane bangathola induduzo kuwo.
Khuluma nabantu mayelana nemizwa yakho. Ungathola ukuthi ukuxoxa ngokukhathazeka kwakho nabangani namalungu omndeni kuyasiza. Cabanga ngokujoyina iqembu lokusekela ukulahlekelwa kwesilwane endaweni yakho noma ku-intanethi. Ungase ufune ngisho nokukhuluma nomeluleki wezinsizi ukukusiza ukuthi usebenzise imizwelo yakho.
Kuyoze kube nini ukuhlupheka kuphele?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyikhumbula ukuthi usizi kuthatha isikhathi. Uzohlala ulahlekelwa umngane wakho, kodwa izinto zizohamba ngcono. Ekuqaleni, kuyoba nezinsuku ezingaphezu kokubi kunokuhle. Khona-ke, uzothola ukuthi izinsuku ezimbi nezinhle nazo. Ngokushesha, uzoba nezinsuku ezimbalwa ezimbi, futhi kuzoba lula ukugxila ezinkumbulo ezijabulisayo ngokudabuka okuncane. Inkumbulo yesilwane sakho ingase ibe yinto enhle kuwe ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Izilwane ezifuywayo ezingenakukwazi ukufaka esikhundleni somngane wakho olahlekile, kodwa zingasiza ukugcwalisa okungekho. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ulinde kuze kube yisikhathi esifanele . Njengabanikazi bezilwane, siyazi ukuthi cishe kuzosondeza izilwane zethu ezifuywayo, ngakho siyabonga isikhathi esifushane esingabelana ngayo nazo izimpilo zethu.